My beloved dog, who has been my best friend and favorite person for the last twelve years, suddenly passed away three weeks ago. My whole family is devastated, and I am especially bereft. He was our family dog, but mostly he was my dog. For the last eight years I’ve either worked from home or been home with my kids, and he was my constant companion. Since he died, I’ve found myself completely unable to adequately describe both the intensity of our bond and the magnitude of my current suffering.
True progress on your path can only happen when you find the courage to listen to your intuition and make the choices that resonate deeply with you, regardless of how well they match up to what other people/society/logic say you should do.
Each of us has our own unique path, and therefore our own unique value system. What works for me may not work for you and vice versa. What matters is making the most expansive choices for ourselves–these are the choices that we make intuitively and that naturally align with our paths and our values.
But how do you actually make those intuitive decisions?
When we set our sights on achieving things that really matter, the stakes feel high. The more deeply we care about something, the more vulnerable we become to fear and doubt.
The real problem with fear is this: it often prevents us from taking action. When we don’t act, we feel stuck. And the longer we feel stuck, the harder it becomes to act.
But here’s the thing: we’re collaborators with the universe and our action is required.
The beginning of a new year is such an exciting time, but sometimes it can be tiring and overwhelming to think about a brand new year stretching out ahead of you. (You’d better make it count, right? This’ll be the best year ever! The year you finally get your shit together, make that change, do that thing, find happiness/success/health! Ugh, just writing those examples makes me feel bad!)
Rather than create a list of goals and resolutions that will either be forgotten or cause you stress (or, um, both), I suggest you take my simple, compassionate approach to transitioning to a new year. Three simple steps, which work fabulously to usher in the new year but can also be used any time you want to hit the reset button.
As 2015 draws to a close I’ve been reflecting on my year and thinking about everything I learned. This year threw me a lot of curve balls and I experienced a lot of resistance and frustration.
But I had a lot of breakthroughs, too, and in many ways I feel like this past year has been one of the most transformative of my life. I feel so much more grounded than I did a year ago, and I’ve laid the foundation for the even bigger changes that are coming in 2016.
You’ve been told so many times that you already have what you need to be who you’re here to be (and do what you’re here to do), but sometimes it doesn’t feel like it. Sometimes it feels like, well where is all that magical stuff? Where is my self-love, my discipline, my clarity? If I already have it then why doesn’t it feel like I do?
The phrase, “right things, right timing.” is a favorite of mine because it helps me release my tendency to control. I say it to myself all the time when things don’t go the way I want them to or aren’t happening on the timeline I’d prefer.
This phrase isn’t just a platitude to soothe disappointments–it’s true. I can’t think of a time in my life when something didn’t go the way I wanted, but I realized later that what I’d wanted wasn’t the best thing after all.
This week I channeled some guidance I didn’t want to hear. It was intended for my email subscribers but I didn’t want to send it out because it felt too challenging. (Note that this guidance is for me, too, and I wanted something less challenging!) So I channeled more guidance, which I also didn’t like.
I kept channeling guidance until I had six weeks’ worth of guidance…and I didn’t like any of it.
Terrible things happen all over the world everyday. Most of them we never hear about, but some of them we do. And realizing that the one atrocious thing you’ve heard about is just one thing, and there are so many more atrocious things you’ll never know about, is even more upsetting.
Sometimes when we hear about the sad, horrifying, awful things we may wonder how they’re even possible. Or we may wonder how it’s possible that at our core we really are all beings of love, when some of us perpetrate such terrible acts. Sometimes it just doesn’t make any sense.
Do you ever feel like you’re living out the same story over and over? Like the same issues and problems keep cropping up in your life, even though you’re self-aware, even though you’re trying so hard to grow and evolve and improve and leave your old troubles behind?
You’re not alone.
Repeatedly confronting the same kinds of issues doesn’t mean you’re broken, it doesn’t mean you’ve failed at life, and it doesn’t mean you’re not growing.